nonentity

An unimportant or insignificant person.

The Queen Mother detests, but she dreads me—my uncle is indifferent, but finds me of use—our new Queen is already a nonentity—and Louis knows that my house is the most agreeable in Paris.

But I am not the penniless nonentity I was when we first met; I can offer an honorable if not a brilliant marriage; and at the very lowest I can provide my wife – my widow, my relict – with a decent competence, an assured future.

The state of not existing; nonexistence.

New objects, new amusements, will occupy her mind; and unhappiness, equally unsuspected and unspoken, will die of its own nonentity.

Gay men have no identity. They appropriate badly that of straight men who are all fucked up in the first place over thir ^([sic]) mythic masculinity stereotype. So, twice removed, the gay man flounders through life doubly fucked up dancing the dance of non-entity around the bright, burning flame of sex, power and upward mobility.