should

To make a statement of what ought to be true, as opposed to reality.

To suggest (that someone ought to do something, or that something ought to be the case) by, or as if by, using the word should.

I'd prefer that she stop shoulding me. I prefer that I stop shoulding me. I prefer that I stop shoulding her.

[…] for her to be kind to herself and less susceptible to others shoulding her.

Something that ought to be the case as opposed to already being the case.

When the golf ball is there, the whole self-interference package — the hopes, worries, and fears; the thoughts on how-to and how-not-to; the woulds, the coulds, and the shoulds — is there too.

However, we can address maladaptive shoulds by examining the differences between prior events, causes, proximate causes, and moral responsibility.